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Why St. Anthony’s- Tina Eckels

Adding another Why St. Anthony’s story to our website today. This one features our Director of Nursing, Tina Eckels.

“My hospice journey began when I was just 17 years old. I had never before heard of Hospice and obviously knew nothing about the concept of Hospice. I was first introduced to Hospice while still in high school when I heard a Hospice Nurse give a talk about hospice care and what she did for the patients and families she cared for on a daily basis. I was so moved and energized by what I was hearing that I said to myself ‘I want to do that. I want to be part of that kind of caring.’ I never let go of that and have now been with St. Anthony’s for over 17 years.

I can remember caring for a woman in her late 50’s who was dying of lung cancer. While making a routine visit to her house it was apparent that she was quickly declining. Her daughter was in the living room sitting beside her mother’s hospital bed and I could tell she was having a difficult time. I said to her ‘What can I do for YOU?’ She told me that she wished she could lay with her mother and hold her the way her mother used to hold her when she was a child. I told her she absolutely could and we repositioned her mother in the bed and she climbed in the bed with her mother and help her and told her how much she loved her. Her mother died just a few days later.

About 5 years later that same daughter came up to me in the grocery store and thanked me for the care that St. Anthony’s provided to her mother and for allowing her to do what she needed to do most. She said she will always have that memory of being able to have those last few hours with her mother, just the two of them. That is what Hospice is all about! Allowing people to die with love and dignity in the place of their choosing, the way they want it to be.”

If you or a loved one is in need of the expert care hospice or palliative can provide, please call us at (270) 826-2326 or visit our website at https://stanthonyshospice.org/referral/.

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Why St. Anthony’s- Lisa Burke

We are continuing adding our past Why St. Anthony’s posts here to our website blog. Today’s, from the Why St. Anthony’s vault is from Lisa Burke.

“I worked at St. Anthony’s Hospice for 25 years. I love the mission of hospice and the personnel who have cared for our patient’s through the years.  St. Anthony’s has cared for my dad, mother-in-law, and father-in-law. It was such a comfort knowing I had someone to call at any time if I had questions or concerns. The staff was quick to respond and to go above and beyond to care for my loved ones. I feel proud to be part of such a wonderful agency. My hope is that I can give comfort to our patient’s and family’s as it was given to me during my time of need.

A more specific story, my dad was with St. Anthony’s care for about three months when he had a serious stroke that ultimately took his life. I was able to ask my dad if he wanted to go to the hospital or stay at home. He chose to stay at home. It was obvious after that first night of his stroke that he wasn’t going to improve. Hospice provided Continuous Care which was such a blessing. They provided education and support as we cared for him in his final days. The nurse was present, which gave me an opportunity to rest a little. The education they provided gave me the confidence to provide the necessary care for my dad. Just knowing I had someone to call at any time if I had questions or concerns was such a blessing. I will always be grateful to the staff members who assisted my family in the time of our greatest need. So, I can confidently say to families who wonder if hospice is right for them, a definite yes!”

If you or a loved one is in need of the help that St. Anthony’s Hospice can provide, please give us a call at (270) 826-2326 or visit our website at https://stanthonyshospice.org/referral/.

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2020: A Year in Review

2020 has been a crazy year! From the normality of January – early March, to the declaration of the pandemic status in Mid-March – today. Here’s a little peek at how our 2020 went!

If you or a loved one is in need of the extra help hospice or palliative care can provide, please call us at (270) 826-2326.

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He Only Takes the Best

“God saw he was getting tired,
And a cure was not to be,
So he put his arms around him,
And whispered “Come with me”,
With tearful eyes we watched him suffer,
And saw him fade away,
Although we love him dearly,
We could not make him stay,
A golden heart stopped beating,
Hard working hands to rest,
God broke our hearts to prove to us,
He only takes the best,
Although his heart stopped beating,
His love will always remain,
His absence puts upon our hearts,
A very heavy strain,
For now he is in a place of everlasting rest,
We just have to understand that God,
He only takes the best.”
-He Only Takes the Best, by Jimmy Arnold

If you have been to the Lucy Smith King Care Center lately, then you have seen this beautiful lantern at the nurses’ station. It is a loving reminder that “He Only Takes the Best” and even if you are laughing and having a good time with your loved one, someone may be saying goodbye to theirs.

If you or a loved one is in need of hospice, palliative, or bereavement services please call us at (270) 826-2326.

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Hospice Caregivers- The Unsung Heroes

The most important person in a hospice patient’s life is their caregiver! The caregiver is the special person in the home with the patient day in and out. They tend to every need the patient has, runs necessary errands, experiences the emotional roller coaster that comes from watching a terminal illness progress, and so much more.

Caregivers usually spend so much time caring for their loved one that their own well-being can take a turn. According to the CDC, “79.3% of caregivers aged 45 years and older reported having had a routine checkup in the past year.” Roughly 80% of women had a routine check-up vs. approximately 77% of men, reported from the same study. Also, around 14.5% of caregivers reported having 14 or more mentally unhealthy days in a month. 17.6% of caregivers reported experiencing 14 or more physically unhealthy days in a month. In addition to the mentally and physically unhealthy days, 36.7% of caregivers reported getting insufficient sleep (<7 hours within a 24-hour period).

Hospice and Caregiving

When enrolling a loved one in hospice care, most caregivers think hospice takes over all of their duties and we kick the caregiver aside. This couldn’t be farther from the truth! St. Anthony’s Hospice works in partnership with the caregiver! We know how important it is to have someone in the home providing that constant care and how important it is to be involved in your loved one’s care. St. Anthony’s comes in as extra help and support and to be the expert pain and symptom management. We educate the caregivers on medication, wound dressing, the disease process, the dying process, and much more.

Also, while in St. Anthony’s Hospice care, we have options to give caregivers breaks while the patient still receives the expert symptom management that hospice provides. At the Lucy Smith King Care Center, the patient can transfer for respite care. Respite care is covered 100% under Medicare, Medicaid, and some private insurances! The patient can stay for up to 5 days while the caregiver gets a break to attend a wedding, graduation, vacation, staycation, whatever the event is, and receive the expert 24/7 care that our clinicians provide. For more information on the Lucy Smith King Care Center, check out the webpage about it here- https://stanthonyshospice.org/lucy-smith-king-care-center/.

We work in partnership with the patient’s physician and patient’s caregiver to provide the best care to the patient! If you or a loved one is needing the extra help that St. Anthony’s Hospice can provide, give us a call at (270) 826-2326 or make a referral here- https://stanthonyshospice.org/referral/.

Sources: https://www.cdc.gov/aging/caregiving/caregiver-brief.html

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End of Life Choice

What does a hospital stay usually look like? A patient lying in a bed hooked up to an IV pump, sometimes oxygen, blood pressure cuff, oxygen monitor, and sometimes more. Nurses, aides, and physicians coming in and out of the patient’s room. IV pumps constantly beeping. All of this sounds like a very busy situation. What if you or a loved one finds yourself here, in the middle of all of it? Then, what if you or a loved one is told there is nothing more that can be done?

With hospice care, there is always more that can be done! Hospice care allows for the patient to be treated, rather than the disease. Hospice is about quality of life! St. Anthony’s treats the whole person, including the five types of pain: physical, social, psychological, financial, and spiritual. Hospice is about keeping the dignity of our patients, even after death. Hospice is support and help for the patient, caregiver, and family. Hospice is comfort for the patient in all definitions of the word.

Which do you prefer when you think about the end of your life?

This?

Or this?

Photo Source: The Institute for the Study of Birth, Breath, and Death Facebook post- 1/28/2020

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Keeping Loved Ones Home During the Holidays

“There’s no place like home for the holidays”. Surrounded by family and friends, either safely in person or via FaceTime or Zoom, with COVID still spreading rampant. Sharing memories, celebrating the Holiday Season, sharing meals, and spending time with loved ones is what its all about.

While “Last Christmas” was completely different, the same premise is still here- keeping loved ones at home. Most people put off a hospice referral until after the holidays when they should do the opposite. Hospice care can keep loved ones at home and in the thick of all the family activities while their pain and symptoms are expertly managed and improving quality of life. Early referral and admission to hospice care allows patients to benefit more from hospice care, spend more time with loved ones at home, and allows the family to benefit more from hospice care.

Care that keeps loved ones at home

Hospice care is provided wherever the patient calls home. Hospice care allows patients to have a “Wonderful Christmastime” by having all types of pain managed in the home setting- physical, financial, psychological, social, and spiritual. Hospice does not hasten death, and many studies have shown it can prolong a patient’s life when referred early enough due to increase in quality of life. Having access to a nurse 24 hours per day, every day, can give you a “Silent Night” at home without trips to the Emergency Room. This means if the patient is experiencing symptoms or a fall in the middle of the night, one call to (270) 826-2326 will have a nurse to the house controlling the symptoms and keeping the patient comfortably at home.

Care that alleviates stress

The holiday season is stressful enough. Hospice care can help reduce some of the stressors by keeping your loved one clean and comfortable to improve quality of life. You might think “Santa Claus is Coming to Town” but it’s really your Hospice Care Aide coming to assist with basic hygiene tasks such as bathing to keep your loved one feeling clean! Volunteers can provide companionship and respite care for caregivers, which helps reduce stress while “Christmas Wrapping”, cooking, and placing presents “Underneath the Tree”.

Care that comforts

Once admitted to hospice care, an interdisciplinary team surrounds the patient to treat all symptoms. The interdisciplinary team at St. Anthony’s consists of nurses, chaplains, social workers, volunteers, aides, a nurse practitioner, the patient’s primary care physician, and our medical directors. The team not only supports the patient but supports the patient’s family. They can provide emotional support and education to family members to understand the patient’s disease process and cope with the physical and mental changes that occur to the patient throughout the process. Our care team’s goal is to have all symptoms controlled thus increasing quality of life and ensuring “It’s the Most Wonderful Time of the Year.”

Care that continues

If your loved one has symptoms that can’t be managed at home, St. Anthony’s Hospice has an inpatient unit- the Lucy Smith King Care Center. We offer different levels of care at the Lucy Smith King Care Center to meet the needs of our patients. These levels of care include general inpatient, respite, and residential. General inpatient care is for hospice patients who are experiencing uncontrolled symptoms such as uncontrolled pain, nausea and vomiting, complex wound care, uncontrolled seizures, etc. Respite care is offered for caregivers who need a break to attend an event, staycation, or vacation for up to 5 days. Residential care is when a patient chooses to live at Lucy Smith King Care Center for a room and board rate of $275/day. Even though “Baby It’s Cold Outside,” we want to ensure your loved one is receiving the warmest and highest level of care, just as we would give our own family.

With the holidays among us, we always want to make certain that our patients receive the expert care that St. Anthony’s Hospice is known for. Our clinicians are experts in pain and symptom management that will keep patients comfortable and “Rocking Around the Christmas Tree” with their loved ones. Please give us a call at (270) 826-2326 to refer a loved one or with any questions. We would be happy to help because “(There’s No Place Like) Home for the Holidays.”

 

By the way, how many song titles did you pick up on?

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Forgiving at the End of Life

Many sets of siblings have heard “apologize to your brother/sister!” Or some may have used the ever-so-famous get along shirt, as pictured below.

We all remember this vividly. The mumbled and not so sincere “I’m sorry”, usually accompanied by a forced hug, prior to mom or dad releasing you and your sibling to go play. These moments we all remember so well are used by parents as teachable moments to teach kids about saying sorry, meaning it, and forgiveness. Teaching kids these lessons often goes well since they usually have something small to apologize for such as not sharing a toy.

When adults need to forgive another, that’s where it can get complicated than simply not sharing a toy. Sometimes there’s years of resentment and pain that is difficult to get over. Forgiveness is a critical part in healing; forgiveness at the end of life is more critical since it can benefit both parties.

The Importance of Forgiveness at the End of Life

Hospice clinicians witness all kinds of things with patients- love, tender moments, pain of unresolved conflict, and forgiveness from both patients and families. They watch as an estranged son comes back to the father that hurt him in the past, grab his hand, and have one final heart-to-heart with forgiveness on both ends. Not only do the clinicians witness these beautiful moments, but they also witness the patient reaching out for one final chance at forgiveness, only to have their loved one reject the call.

There can be many reasons the loved one doesn’t want to forgive the patient such as past abuse, addiction, neglect, or many others. Even in difficult situations such as these, there is value in forgiving at the end of life.

How Does Forgiveness Help?

Forgiveness is beneficial for both mental and physical health. Mentally, forgiveness doesn’t mean “forgiving and forgetting”, but it does mean letting go of the resentment and anger you have been harboring against that person.

While forgiveness isn’t the easiest thing, St. Anthony’s offers Chaplains to help steer through the complex emotions you may feel. You may have to forgive your loved one multiple times to feel the relief. Once you completely forgive, you may experience many physical changes that include:

  • Lower blood pressure
  • Lower anxiety and stress levels
  • Reduced symptoms of depression
  • Better immune system (which we all need especially with COVID and the flu)
  • Improved mental health
  • Allows for healthier personal relationships

When Forgiveness Fails

While forgiveness benefits all parties, it also can’t be rushed. When approaching end of life, time becomes a factor. Those who were wronged need to forgive on their own terms. You can start on the forgiveness route by apologizing sincerely and taking responsibility for your own actions by offering an explanation of why the event happened and how you wish to make amends.

It’s important to give the wronged person the chance to express how the situation affected them. This can be difficult to hear, and even say, it’s a necessary part of the process.

Even with a sincere apology, the hurt person may not forgive. While this may hurt, forgiveness may not be immediate. Follow the lead of the hurt party and give them the space needed to process the apology and heal.

Seek out a therapist, chaplain, or social worker for more guidance to move forward and forgive. If you have any questions about hospice care, please call us at (270) 826-2326.

 

 

 

Photo source: https://www.google.com/search?q=get+along+shirt&rlz=1C1CHBD_enUS850US850&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwjG1PLTqMTtAhVGaM0KHaPXDf8Q_AUoAXoECBMQAw&biw=639&bih=564&dpr=1.5#imgrc=4aDicGV_7eWKSM 

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Grief and the Holidays

The holidays are a trying time, now in a pandemic, and even more so when you lose a loved one. The first year a loved one is gone is completely different- the first Christmas, Thanksgiving, birthday, etc. without your loved one around or calling you.

Last year we shared 14 ways to cope with grief during the holidays and we wanted to hit on those again.

  1. Realize this year will be different. Don’t compare this holiday with the nostalgia of past holidays. Acknowledge that the holidays may not be the same as those in the past.
  2. Expect emotions to intensify. Accept the likelihood that the holidays may be painful.
  3. Plan ahead. Pace yourself. Set realistic limits and lowed expectations. It is okay to say “no” to things like sending cards, decorating, and buying gifts.
  4. Be flexible and patient to yourself and others.
  5. Tell others what you need. Others may not know how to help you and need to be told what to do. Communicate your needs!
  6. Be gentle with yourself. Give yourself permission to feel whatever you feel.
  7. Remember your physical needs. Don’t abandon healthy habits like exercising, eating right, and getting plenty of sleep.
  8. Make new holiday rituals. When you do things differently, it tells others that your life is different. Light a candle, walk, pray, or do whatever feels right for YOU!
  9. Honor traditions. Let family know what traditions are meaningful for you and which are painful. It is okay to let some traditions go.
  10. Take 5 minute “mini mental breaks.” Sit down, practice deep breathing and simply close your eyes. Alternatively, go for a walk, listen to music, or meditate.
  11. Stay involved. Meet together as a family and share what each needs to make these holidays special and be willing to change the normal routine. In 2020, please be sure to follow COVID guidelines to keep yourself and family members safe.
  12. Lean on your faith (or family) for strength. Touch base with your spirituality (or family members if you are not spiritual). Both can bring comfort, strength, peace, and wisdom. Explore what gives your own life meaning.
  13. Remember to remember. Celebrate the memory of your loved one in a way that helps you cope.
  14. Find moments of joy. Remember that your loved one would want nothing but your happiness over the holidays. Don’t feel guilty to laugh, joke, or find joy in the simple things.

In addition to 14 ways to cope with grief during the holidays, we wanted to re-share Thomas Emerson’s video on bereavement support and grief. For those who do not know, Thomas is one of our Chaplains and our Bereavement Coordinator. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D4GI0X-IBhg

Holidays can be hard, here at St. Anthony’s we want to make them a little easier for you! We offer bereavement support for 15 months after your loved one passes away! We also take referrals anytime- day or night- and visit patients anytime a need arises outside of their scheduled visit. Give us a call at (270) 826-2326 to see how we can help you or a loved one.

 

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Are Earlier Hospice Referrals Beneficial?

Many people know the benefits of hospice care, expert symptom management, emotional support, spiritual support, help for both the patient and caregiver, and help with advanced directives. Unfortunately, most patients are referred to hospice late in the disease process. Even more unfortunate, some are referred so late in the disease process, they cannot fully realize how much of an impact hospice can make on both physical and emotional comfort, as well as the increase in quality of life.

The earlier in the disease process a patient is referred to hospice care, the more benefits he/she receives! In a study done a few years ago based on St. Anthony’s Hospice interdisciplinary team visits, we determined the following:

IN THE PROGRAM 6 MONTHS IN THE PROGRAM 2 WEEKS
50 nurse visits to home 4 nurse visits to home
36 supportive calls by nursing staff 3 supportive calls by nursing staff
75 nurse aide visits 5 nurse aide visits
13 social work visits 1 social work visits
10 spiritual care visits 1 spiritual care visits
6 care center days for symptom management 2 care center days for symptom management
15 months of bereavement support to family 15 months of bereavement support to family
23 volunteer visits (if requested)  

Every patient is different, therefore every patient need is different. Some patients require more visits and some require less, this table is the average visits.

Our goal is to improve every patient’s quality of life! The sooner a patient is referred to hospice, the more benefits he/she receives.

If you or a loved one is in need of the extra help and support hospice care can provide, please give us a call at (270) 826-2326.

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